Saying goodbye to Karlie has been hard for me. It’s been 17 months and I still am struggling to move on. But I don’t think we ever truly move on when we lose someone that we love. Instead we try to move forward. You never forget the love, the memories, the joy. You just figure out a way to live without the daily presence of the one you have lost. So although I struggle, I am focusing on moving forward, not moving on.
For me moving forward means embracing the things that Karlie and I loved to do together and sharing them with Sunny – hiking, kayaking, playing fetch, and lounging in the backyard. But I am also learning the things that Sunny loves – chasing leaves and bugs, meeting people and dogs, chewing boxes, snuggling on the bed, and anything that gets her a treat. So moving forward means sharing what Karlie loved while also doing the things that Sunny loves. It’s a way for me to share Karlie with Sunny while developing my relationship with Sunny. And although Sunny is not Karlie, she helps me move forward.
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